LD, Community Connection, Public Schools and the PTA

HELP!

This is the question most asked of me by parents concerning their children with LD and special needs. It is that simple and that complex. I understand. I feel for them and I admire their determination. The love they have for their children is obvious. The hard road they walk to bring these children a better quality of life is often thankless. Often times parents/guardians feel that they are gaining little ground for their efforts.

I do not have all the answers. But, I know where to start. I believe networking can be such an amazing gift, unfortunately word of mouth will not get this in front of these families. We need to make it easy for families to find these resources. We need to bridge the gap between the education system and the resource-filled online disability communities.

If parents/guardians can connect with the amazing communities available and in turn read the outpouring of help and support, they will find assistance with 504/IEP, social connections with similar children, advocates, tutoring, life tips and emotional support for parents/guardians, just to name a few.

So where can this information be broadcast so it might reach these families on a mass level? My suggestion would be individual PTA social pages and directly on official public school and public school district web pages.

Simply paste the links in an easy to locate area designated as resources for children with special needs. Social communities with interactions should be at the users risk

The PTA was organized to better the lives of every child in education. The public school district and individual school web pages are available as a resource for the families of the children being educated. I say post a permanent link to amazing sites like the Decoding Dyslexia relevant for the area. Link the families in your school affected by autism to not just major communities like Autism Society of America and The National Autistic Society | – | autism | Asperger syndrome | but the smaller local sites that can more intimately address their communities needs. Learning Disabilities Association of America is a wonderful resource and accompanied with local resources where people can connect, disabilities become differences and differences can be embraced and explored within helpful communities.

When a parent or caregiver enters their child’s educational journey the tables turn. They go from knowing their child’s needs and meeting them to a completely different ballgame, often feeling overwhelmed by not only the academics but the social aspects as well.

I say give them a road map to success, having schools and PTA‘s provide links where they can make the connections relevant to families individual situations can accomplish this task. Bring the links to the families instead of having the families desperately looking for someone who may help. Your child’s mind is built like an academic scholar but they struggle socially due to the difference in the way their brain works from the average student? There are others out there, they are looking to share personal experiences with you. Your child has severe academic challenges? The tests are timed the environment is anti-productive for their learning style? There are methods that you have yet to learn, there are advocates to point you in the right direction.

Providing these links to the resources already available will stop the two step forwards one step back feeling so many parents/caregivers are drowning in. There are not enough on-site staff members to hold every families hand through this journey we call education. BUT, there are enough hands out there waiting to help, be a sounding board, and give you the knowledge and road miles they have already walked to help you get back to enjoying the amazing child you were blessed to guide to independence

I believe the education system was first designed to educate the masses. Bless all those who had that presumably insurmountable task and have taken societies thus far! Now let’s continue the evolution of our education by bridging the gap between families in need and the resources available, so that the needs of the minority can be met and each child’s potential is within reach. Let us provide links to the vast knowledge available and the kind hearts that have walked the hard miles and are willing to provide others with the help they are asking for.

I would like to see each school’s web page with links to appropriate disability organizations, advocates, local and online tutoring, and social pages for the emotional support of families with similar challenges. No parent/guardian should feel isolated and every child deserves the immense resources and research available.

Contact your child’s principal make a plea to the public school district and work with your local PTA to make these links available to those in need and the parents/guardians of the future.

If you know of a school that provides these links or have thoughts on this idea I would love to hear from you.

All the best,

DyslexicWhisper

Maverick, Mother or Monster

Far away in a coffee shop rather close by, sat a young woman deciding her fate. Crouched in the shadows with a devilish look, his eye on her progress, existed the processing crook.

The young woman sat at her table sipping cappuccino and cursing the crook for the riot his presence unleashes.

There is a past to digest and a future to plan but the present is always in danger. Every moment slowly chips away until the crook holds all necessary fragments of her broken now.

Finding herself at the bottom of her class and the top of her misery she looks out the window connecting the shadows of the world, noting the unchecked space of the processing crooks realm.

His hand is in everything. My life is not worth the trouble of his unknown, she moans deep inside. I am not maverick, mother or monster. A more bitter taste there never was.

I am nothing, forgotten. A shell of a me that never will be. Her wordless thoughts coil then wrap around the shallow judgment of her depths.

“It’s time to play chess hisses the crook. We have a dance to continue. He reaches out quick as lightening, grabbing a bit of her mind. “This piece is for me,” he laughs. “Now what can you make with the rest?”

“I can jump to the left and come back with a right but you have taken my center and I am loosing this fight.”

Every patron looks on as she mumbles her words. The nonsense escapes, her efforts absurd. She thinks and she thinks unable to stop. Continually turning the problem of her.

With one last effort she thinks and she tries, coming up with a notion and finally sighs. “I’ll marry you crook, if you can loosen your grasp. I’ll be bound for eternity with no questions asked.”

“You’ll marry me?” His eyes widen with greed. “I will no longer steel if you will give to me free. We’ll have a big party and make all the vows. We’ll announce to the public and then make our bows.”

So she marries the crook and they live openly somehow. He becomes her sweet side kick showing her all the wonders he holds and often times how.

She cleans his house and launders his clothes. Often stopping to observe her fragments he keeps on his shelf.

They shimmer and gleam with worries gone by. The pieces all there with nothing to hide. Stacked in an order that still doesn’t make sense she looks and she looks but forbidden to touch.

The crook turns away one sunny bright day, finding few shadows but determined to play. The worlds finally changing, a true beginning – a new day. He looks back at her once and then at his shelf, then smiles through to his eyes that reflect the world all around.

“If you promise to wait I will show you my method of making sense of your thoughts that I keep on my shelf.”

Eager and curious the woman agrees looking out at the shadows cast from all me’s. No longer so young with the years that went by, finally content without asking why.

“They’re no use to me now. What need do I have? These things you have stacked are neither good or bad. I want you to know I’m carrying your child. I have found happiness with that and it is enough. You have taken from me what will never return, but I’ll wait as you say ready to learn.”

His smile gets wider as he thinks of her days roaming free from her worries, judgments and old ways. He walks back inside knowing she is ready to discover, all the wonders of her that were passed from her grandmother.

“You’re ready at last, your life will begin. Just watch what will happen when released from world’s sin.”

The crook reaches the shelf, the fragments all there. A lifetime of learning but very little wear. He sweeps them with one great swipe of his hands, they fall to the ground shattering to sand. Their flicker goes out their existence no more.

“Now look at your world don’t notice the floor. See if you notice the spark deep inside calling into existence that which the world wanted to hide. They knew not what to do with your creative soul so they taught you their methods and created that hole. The center that lives in you is there even now. You hid it away because they didn’t know how to teach and push you to your very best. But now you can achieve, like all the rest.”

The woman looks on with awe in her mind. The crook that she loathed was really quite kind. If she focused on her strengths and forgot all the rest, her focus would explode, she is really quite blessed.

“They told me to stay when I should have walked by. They told me my failures till I wanted to cry. The world did not know our ways and our methods. The fragments were theirs this whole time. You stole the bits that would never make sense then reconstructed the pieces of my past tense. You have shown me how to look at the problems in sight without all the nonsense, I will turn out all right.”

The crook now looked at her with a boyish type grin. “I have shown you the answers and have treated you right. You needed only to give up the meaningless fight. It wasn’t my doing that made your life that way. The others were responsible for the way things lay.

They pushed and they hollered and presented all wrong the keys to your life, but look at you now, you’re stronger by far. With your mind as intended creative and sure.

I was born with great influence from the very start. There are more of us out there waiting to be part. Their tune is truly brilliant if given a chance. We’ll set out and find them and make this alright, until the world see’s our purpose and it can take flight.”

The woman held tight to the thought of her infant’s coming years. “I can learn all I need you’ve shown me how, thank you for blessings that I can see now. I will pass it all on to our child so she will have nothing to hide. I will open my potential and be more than just mom. I will march in your army singing our song.”

Kellee Farr

Dyslexicwhisper

Maverick, Mother or Monster was rewritten as a play and preformed at the DYSPLA Festival at the  Camden Peoples Theatre  London, England.

Directed by the amazing

Caglar Kimyoncu (Director, Maverick, Mother, or Monster) is a digital and video artist as well as curator and arts consultant. In the past fifteen years, he has collaborated with artists in a variety of media, including film and video production, website design, theatre sceneography, video and photo documentary, and script development. His practice includes collaborating with and mentoring artists, consulting with international arts organisations and film festivals, and curating digital arts.

His continuing interest is in alternative representations of excluded voices, voices perceived as “other”, whether they be from a sexual, gender, disability or ethnic perspective.

Caglar recently completed COnscription, his first solo exhibition in East London, at the Old Truman Brewery, in May 2013. The project was based on factual research and aimed to promote awareness and discussion around the issues faced by people (including LGBTQ people, disabled people and conscientious objectors) in Turkey and, tangentially, in other countries with conscription. As part of the exhibition, he created a four-channel film using my ‘no-script’ approach with the actors, and exploring collaborative improvisational techniques from start to finish with the whole team.

COnscription was funded by Arts Council England and produced by Filmpro, in partnership with War Resisters International.

Caglar is also the Founder and Artistic Director of Filmpro ltd, a disabled-led film and digital art agency. Filmpro’s mission is to extend the ways of making and experiencing film and digital art, and the diversity and openness of the arts sector. Follow @_caglark

The talented Rachel Waring preforming the play version of Maverick, Mother or Monster. Photo courtesy of the DYSPLA Facebook page.

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Rachel Waring (Actress, Monsters, Mavericks, Mothers) is a stage and screen actress who studied at The Royal Central School of Speech and Drama. Early in this year, Rachel played The Artful Dodger in the European tour of Oliver Twist. This summer, she has been playing Anne Page from The Merry Wives of Windsor with The Oxford Shakespeare Company. Additionally, this summer, not only was her short filmLong Walk Home by Sameer Patel included in the official selection at Rain Dance, but also she celebrated her debut in the feature film, 2012 Fright Fest Headliner The Seasoning House by Paul Hyett.

DYSPLA 2013 TEAM

Lennie Varvarides (Founder/Festival Producer) cannot follow rules, she breaks them like cheap plastic cutlery that will not bend. ‘No’ is a word that sits uncomfortably on her tongue and when she gets an idea in her head, it is impossible to slow her down.  She makes things happen fast and often with no resources because she believes that anything is possible. There is fire in her belly and you know what that means–it’s burning! Follow @msft_production

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Kazimir Bielecki (Multimedia Arts Director) is a visual storyteller who enjoys looking at things and replicating dreams. The Creative Director of successful production agency bielecki&bielecka, Kazimir is continuing to explore all aspects visual storymaking. Follow @bielandbiel

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Amy Schulz (Website Guru) is happily married, living in Florida, and pet-mama to four “furkids” named Olive, Cassie, Millie, and Baby. She designs and develops websites for a living, and is also an actress and Master Acting Class Graduate of The Burt Reynolds Institute For Film & Theatre (BRIFT). Check out her websites at amyhoerler.com and amyschulz.com to learn more. Follow @amyhoerler

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Rachel Creeger (Production Manager) is a writer/director from the Orthodox Jewish Community, and to her knowledge, the only writer from her background creating mainstream theatre in London. Her production company Time2Shine helps community groups to devise original work from concept to performance. Personal credits include An Insomniac’s Guide To Ambulances (The Gatehouse), ESTHER! The Musical(Artsdepot), Staffroom and Paying Attention (Tristan Bates Theatre), plus many commissioned plays for children. She regularly directs new writing for MSFT and production manages the DYSPLA Festival. She was also part of the team behind the highly acclaimed Othello at the Bussey Building. She hosts comedy nights and writes for and performs with vocal harmony group Kol Sheva. Rachel is currently on an arts secondment at the LJCC, focusing on projects including the Hampstead & Highgate Literary Festival, Poetry In The Park, and The FUSION Children’s Programme. Follow @Time2Shineprods

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Eleanor Wdowski (Set Designer) is a theatre based set and costume designer. She has delivered designs for past productions including Hansel and Gretel (Clonter Opera, 2012), Story of a Mother (Battersea Arts Centre, 2010) and Cosi Fan Tutte (Clonter Opera, 2010). Set design credits also include A Dream Across The Ocean (Hackney Empire, 2013). For the Galleon Theatre Company at Greenwich Playhouse she has designed costumes for Hamlet (2011), A Woman of No Importance (2011), and The Cherry Orchard (2010). Her design for Hansel and Gretel was nominated for Best Design at Manchester Theatre Awards earlier this year.

Eleanor studied at Wimbledon School of Art where she attained a First Class Degree in Theatre ‘Design for Performance’ along with winning the Vice Chancellors prize 2008. As part of theatre duo ‘Hellcat Productions’ on graduating, she co-devised ‘Guts for Garters’ (The Rest is Noise, 2009), ‘La Prima Donna’ (Latitude Festival, 2009) and ‘Lift and Separate’ (V&A Museum, 2008).

Eleanor is delighted to be a part of the DYSPLA Festival this year.

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Camille Lesaffre (Theatre Tech)

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Alexia Morris (MUA) is a professional makeup artist with a degree in Media Studies at the London College of Fashion and University of Arts.

She specialized in makeup & hair for TV, film, theatre, catwalk, photography and body painting where she loved being able to escape into the world of art and challege her creativity.

When she finished her studies, she joined Rachel’s School of Theatre running make-up workshops for children; where she had volunteered as a drama tutor; inspiring young students on how to apply make up, encourage and incorporate it into theatre. In addition to teaching she worked with make up , costume and hair at the Brixton theatre where she developed. She also made a student film for Cannes Festival working as a make-up assistant and BT Christmas Carol concert at the Royal Albert Hall as a make-up designer. She decided it was time for a change of scenery and moved around the country to work at the BBC in Cardiff (Wales) and the BBC Pebble Mill (Birmingham) as a costume & make-up designer.

Her professional experience includes working as a make up and costume designer and her work is exclusively created for professionals within the beauty and wellness industries. She can be contacted on alexiamorris@icloud.com

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Sam Barclay (Printed DYSPLA Festival Flyer Designer)

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Anna-Maria Georgiades (Office Manager) was born and raised in Australia. At the age of 12, she and her family moved to Cyprus, where she discovered her passion for acting. She studied acting for three years at Vladimiros Kafkarides Drama School. In 2007, she moved to London to pursue further training and work. She attended the Giles Foreman Centre for Acting (formerly Caravanserai) for three years and the PEM (Perdekamp Emotional Method) training workshops. She has appeared on TV and stage in Cyprus, most recently on stage at Theatro Technis in Grey Foam. During the summer, she played three parts in Nuclear Winter, which was part of the Camden Fringe Festival. In December, she will be appearing in Federico Garcia Lorca’s Yerma at The Lord Stanley. Follow @_ahmg_

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Paul Anthony Drury (PR Consultant) Action at the intersection of art and advertising. Paul builds brand love and connects content with audiences by using skills across journalism, PR, social media, marketing and cross-platform production.

Paul trained as a journalist and spent four-years in newspapers in the North of England before moving to London in 2007 to work for arts communications specialists Idea Generation – delivering campaigns for The Royal Shakespeare Company, Channel 4, Stella Artois and working form the Edinburgh Fringe for four consecutive summers.

After leaving Idea Generation, Paul worked on projects for the British Council, spent almost a year at film and entertainment specialists Premier and is now working for intergrated communications agency Unity – on creative projects for clients including Hyundai, Baileys and Lucozade. Follow @thisisjukebox

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Hatty Evans (PR Assistant) works in marketing in the world of advertising. With a profound passion for theatre she participated in plays from the age of 5–18 at the Bristol Old Vic, and then went on to pursue drama at University in London, writing, acting and composing music. After being diagnosed as dyslexic at a young age, she has always had a deep interest in how this affects creative practice and can be used in creative methods. She is very excited to be part of the DYSPLA Festival.

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Amanda Hickey studies Public Relations and Theatre at Marist College in Poughkeepsie, New York. She has been studying abroad in London since August and has recently taken on an internship with MSFT. She really enjoys writing and performing, and is loving her London experience thus far. Follow @manderzz24

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Cameron Tagge is a Film and Theatre University student from Los Angeles. He is currently studying abroad in London and working an internship position with MSFT, DYSPLA, Lennie, and the whole crew until late December. Meeting new friends, future coworkers, and experiencing an entirely different culture has been a golden opportunity too good to be true. It’s truly a home away from home. Follow @CamTagMe

 

DYSPLA HIGHLIGHTS 2013
 

Program Designed by Sam Barkley

DYSPLA 2013

If you missed Dyspla 2013, have a look at some highlights below…

“…a very intense experience”  –  LondonTheatre1

“Dyspla Arts festival: All the right letters…” – BBCOuch
“DYSPLA has returned with vigor and triumphant to the West End” – femalearts

“an explosion of light, colour and sound…” – views from the gods

“…experience some truly cutting-edge performance.”  Disability Arts Online

An encapsulating reformation of dyslexia with debate and performances by dyslexic artists and educators.
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A stylized two-hander loosely based on the story of Yvonne Ridley who was captured by the Taliban in 2001.
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A maze-like structure in the basement of the Camden Peoples’ Theatre for the audience to explore intimate, immediate, and inspiring dyslexic performers.
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Dyspla changes lives. Whether significantly or subconsciously, it finds its way into audiences’ thoughts and hearts. Dyslexia won’t ever be thought of the same way again.”

Dyspla is the forefront for dyslexic theatre and dyslexic artists, creators, thinkers, and believers. It will continue to shape minds – young and old – and morph the definition of dyslexia from difficulty to specialty.”

Y&P is undoubtedly an unusual theatre experience that pushes the boundaries. It makes you uncomfortable yet makes you think, touches your heart but sends chills down your spine. Theatre is supposed to move you—show you something you’ll never forget. Y&Pdoes just that.”

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Hello dyslexic comunity,

My name is Kellee Farr or Dyslexicwhisper on social media. I am a dyslexic author based in California, best known for my poem on the Yale Center for Dyslexia and Creativity, Dyslexic Words.

This year the DYSPLA Festival in London will be featuring my monologue in their Whispering Theater project. This is a great honor as they will have an actor reading my work in front of an audience throughout their festival, 11 – 17 Nov. 2013. My monologue is about the education systems roll in the dyslexic’s self image and embracing your dyslexia. Written in a catchy rhythm liken to Dr. Seuss. It is titled Maverick, Mother or Monster, after this years DYSPLA theme. They have also asked that I hand write the monologue so they can use it in The Letters Project, DYSPLA will be a part of Cambridge Dyslexia Exhibit Oct. 18, 2013.

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LISTING INFO:
GALA Fundraiser Night 11th November: Tickets £25.00
(Includes Wine, Food and Weekly Festival Pass)
Performance Nights: 12-17th November: Tickets £12 in advanced/£15.00 on the door

For more info or to get involved please email: dyspla @ gmail.com www.dysthelexi.com
Venue: Camden Peoples Theatre, 58-60 Hampstead Rd  London NW1 2PY
2013 Viral Campaign: https://vimeo.com/72431221

The DYSPLA Festival celebrates the work and lives of dyslexic story makers, they are amazing advocates in our dyslexic community. I have had a great many e-mails of young adults and adults alike that are looking for a community where they can come together, as the amazing dyslexics they are, for support and friendship. From India to the USA I have met more dyslexics with a need for a voice. I believe it is in the humble accomplishments like my part in the DYSPLA Festival that will open these doors and give courage to others.

Thank you and all the best. I love our dyslexic community, Kellee Farr @Dyslexicwhisper

I would like to thank

DYSPLA Festival  DYSPLA Festival 

MSFT Management/Prod MSFT Management/Prod ‏

 Decoding Dyslexia NC

Decoding Dyslexia PA Decoding Dyslexia PA ‏   http://decodingdyslexiapa.org/?p=445

  Decoding Dyslexia – NY

Decoding Dyslexia VA  Decoding Dyslexia VA ‏

Decoding Dyslexia OR Decoding Dyslexia OR

 Decoding Dyslexia – CA

Decoding Dyslexia WV Decoding Dyslexia WV 

Decoding Dyslexia MA Decoding Dyslexia MA ‏

 Decoding Dyslexia DE

Gianandrea Poracin Gianandrea Poracin http://paper.li/papi4dsa/1318285542 … 

 The World of Dyslexia

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RemyRemy  usethebrainsgodgivou usethebrainsgodgivou

Cheryl Clemens Cheryl Clemens Steven Barry Steven Barry ‏

 J Dewayne Pierce Author     Nick Sheridan Nick Sheridan

For their support on my behalf!

Sunshine Award

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What a wonderful way to begin my week! Thank you Melissa Gaines for the nomination.                                                                     Melissa Gaines Twitter link: @melGmow 

The fact that you thought of my blog fills my world with sunshine! Your triumphs in life have helped and inspire me. What a beautiful person you are. I encourage all to check out Melissa’s blog:

Forever Fitting In

After receiving the nomination, the blogger must:

1. Acknowledge the nominating blogger;
2. Share 11 random facts about yourself;
3. Answer 11 questions the nominating blogger has created for you;
4. List 11 bloggers. They should be bloggers that you believe deserve some recognition and a little blogging love!
5. Post 11 questions for the bloggers that you nominated to answer; and
6. Let all of the bloggers know that they’ve been nominated. You cannot nominate the blogger that nominated you.

11 Random Facts

  1. I have sixteen siblings. Although I have not lived with all of them they are dear to my heart.
  2. My mother is my idol and my father is my hero!
  3. I have been scalped. lol. I was in a car accident when I was eight-months pregnant. Just before my head went through the windshield it wiped the controls from the ceiling, in return, scalping me. 360 stitches and a reverse mo-hawk later, I was in possession of my scalp again.
  4. The things that make my world worth living: family, sarcasm, documentaries, history and writing.
  5. I love writing classes. Looking forward to this fall!
  6. I studied Maria Montessori in college and accidentally found the keys to my learning style.
  7. My sister, Jeni, is an endless source of pride for me. Her accomplishments and life are awe-inspiring.
  8. Whenever I go to target I open a box of crayons and smell them. Best ever!

     9. I was Prom Queen, Class President and Activities Director at my tiny high school.

    10. One of the best things in life is playing tag with little kids. I use to be a party host at a children’s play center (four years ago). Instead of awkward small talk with the adults I would lead the children in a game of extreme-tag using the giant play structure. I can run up a double slide doing a sharp 180 at the top launching myself back down ending in an impressive four foot double hop at the bottom. All without being caught by 30 maniac 5 year-olds. Now that my friends is living!

     11. I’ve loved wearing hats since I was a toddler.

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11 Questions: (Nominees: Please answer these same questions)

What’s your favorite meal of the day — breakfast, lunch or dinner?

The one that I did not have to make!

 What’s your favorite fruit?

My older sister Sandy. LOLOL

When you were five, what did you want to be when you grew up? 

A stunt woman. My cousin Tony would tie a rope to his bike and race off with me on my skates holding on for dear life. I thought I was headed for stardom. He would also hold on to my hand and foot twirling as quickly as possible, finally launching me into the prickly bushes. He was one year older and five times my size. Best memories EVER! (not being sarcastic)

What quality do you find most attractive in others? 

Humor.

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What’s your favorite sport? 

Extreme exercising with Sandy. (Biking for 7 hours. Full contact brownie grabbing.) She built an air-conditioned, exercise/movie theater room in her backyard. No seats, just cardio-machines and flat screen/surround sound. Downton Abbey Marathon here we come.

What’s your favorite candy? 

The kind I sneak into a theater.

What’s your favorite online shopping website?

Amazon

What’s your pet peeve?

People that never took the time to get to know me but don’t like me.

Winter, spring, summer or fall? 

Fall in California. Smells sooo wonderful!

How many pairs of shoes do you have?

No idea. I don’t wear shoes unless I have to. But I love boots and I have a pair of HEELYS. lol

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The Blogs I Nominate Are:

 You should visit their blogs.  Support the worlds starving bloggers and don’t forget to “like” and share.
~Dyslexicwhisper

I See In 3D

My grandmother-in-law was in the hospital recently. She is 96 and had an infection in one of her legs. What was supposed to be a routine check on her leg turned into a four day nightmare. They admitted her and began intense antibiotics. They gave her sleep aids and pain killers but explained little. She began to feel out of control and fearful. What she thought she was seeing turned out to be (from what I gather) side effects of the medicine. And what I insist as malnourishment from fear of eating and fatigue from adrenaline fueled by fear. She could not sleep. She would not eat.

When she asked that I come stay with her I went with the intention of easing her stay any way I could. I remember a time in life where I wished someone would simply watch over me so I could sleep. She was gifting me with her trust and I was determined not to fail her.

During my time with her the specialist came in pulling at her blanket wanting to examine her. “Remember this woman is 96,” I demanded. She comes from a time where women wore pantyhose at ALL times or were considered indecent. She came from 1916. My history friends will understand that America in this time period was not even the same planet as it is now. Men do NOT bring in groups of training doctors to view 96 year old women in this manner without taking a piece of the woman’s integrity when they leave.

I am not a doctor. I do not even claim that what they were doing was wrong. Maybe they see things that I do not. I only asked that they consider the person as they proceed. What I wanted to give her was peace of mind. I brought my computer and iPod. I showed her that the medical staff and family member (from the lady sharing her room) were not out to get her with their strange handheld electronic devises. They were not in “cahoots”, like she claimed, but were probably on Facebook. Then I opened up my Facebook on my iPod and showed her pictures of her grand-kids and her children and the lives she had no idea were so accessible. In the end she said she would rather be gardening, despite the many hours she could see being consumed looking at everyone’s “grass is greener” photos.

The night was long and I was tired but when the situation would get the better of her I switched from my iPod to my laptop to give her old eyes a better view. The screen was now large enough to engage her in these precious family photos that were taken with the current generation’s iOS devices. Bless her heart, we giggled and awed at some and then looked surprised at the more risqué photos. I got to see the world from 1916. It was beautiful. It deserved respect. She was NOT losing her grip on reality she was simply trying to cope in a world that was developing faster than she could access.

I stayed up all night and only took my eyes off her once (Guests were not allowed to use the bathroom in the room) but I explained this to her and everything else that she heard and saw that she did not understand. From the rolling cart of the late night custodian to vibration of the staffs feet when they had to rush off for a patients emergency she was scared and I knew the mind can be a powerful enemy. She was not convinced by all of my explanations but she grew to trust me that night because I never lied to her or talked down to her. There was never a sensation that was too insignificant for me to explain. And I offered the explanations without her asking.

She was convinced they were holding her against her will. I stayed with her until she was released and when we got outside I asked her if she could smell anything. She looked at me funny and said no. I told her to take a big whiff, because that was the smell of sweet freedom. She laughed and then looked at me seriously. Then she told me something that I hadn’t realized I needed so desperately. She said, “You know kid, I love you.”

This to me is my gift of dyslexia. To see things in 3D. To understand from all directions. I made a friend that day. A friendship that levels me at how genuine it is.

I try to look at everyone with this 3D approach. Every child discovered not labeled. Every elderly person deserves explanation not condemnation and every disability deserves redefining.

Almost 100 years together. Perfection!

Whisper This,

Dyslexicwhisper

Dyslexic Parents I Salute You!

I may not always be organized, remember everything or get to soccer practice on time. These are only some of my weaknesses. We as dyslexic parents can bring something else to the table though, a different approach. 

We can create a boat out of a trampoline and help our children to imagine the carpet as an enchanted lake where they can fish in the living room!

We can create alphabet soup in the swimming pool to help learn the ABC’s.

We can paint the garage door like the American flag to be patriotic!

We can help our children to fly like Up for their birthday!

We can build enchanted two story tree houses out of walk in closets to foster our children’s imaginations. 

And, if we forget your tennis shoes we always remember the butterfly net!

What are some of the memories you have?

Happy dyslexic parenting, and never forget your strengths! 

~Dyslexicwhisper

Writing Writing Tips For Less Knowledgeable Writers Is Supposed To Help Me Reach My Target Audience?

If you ask how to drive traffic to your blog the answer is almost always the same. Provide something of value to your potential reader. This is always followed by writing tips.

The blog I’m supposed to write. 101 writing tips.

The underlying point of a writer blogging about the rules of the trade is (according to other successful authors): To gain traffic so people will find out about and buy your book. There are SO many of these blogs it is mind boggling. But when an author blogs about writing tips and then spams a million “buy my children’s book” tweets, I get confused.

My question: Why would you think that your future readers are other writers? Sure, writers usually love reading but they are not your target audience.

Don’t get me wrong, I love reading about writing tips. I have grown as a writer because of those tips and I need them. But my novel is geared towards  young adults. Shouldn’t I be trying to get the fans of bands like One direction to read my blog?? I am a young adult author, they are young adults, that would seem logical to me.

The answer is no, leave “One Directioners” alone and concentrate on your genre or purpose.  (Trust me, unless you are One Direction, trying to sell your auto-biography, these fans are NOT interested, no matter what you blog about.)

Am I the only one who sees a flaw in the “writing tips” method? Personally, I value creative over perfect only because I cannot always see your mistakes (being dyslexic me) but I can immerse myself into your cleverly written world. (And, if you break the rules of writing for a clever, creative purpose, I will immediately consider you a kindred spirit.)

Now, if the purpose of writing tips is to attract your peers than this is a very effective method. But, if you are looking for your target audience, know who they are and what they like. Theme your blog around those guidelines because I bet their not interested in writing tips. Then tweet about your blog and have that lead them to your book.

For example: Say your novel’s genre is paranormal, I would include something like this link:

Most Haunted Real Places http://inventorspot.com/13_real_haunted_places?page=0%252C1

Gain interest in your novel by immersing your audience in what they love. Take them on a virtual tour that will scare the shit out of them. Or treat them to a bit of the urban-legend that prompted you to write your sure-to-be best selling thriller. If you make it clever I assure you, your readers will periodically check back in to see where else you can take them. Eventually they WILL by your book.

If they love romance and your novel is just that, then maybe an article about relationships, or, if you wanted me to buy your book/read your blog, include this picture. I assure you I will buy whatever this man is selling!

If you are writing a non-fiction about something like gardening, a link like this may be of interest to your reader: http://www.garden.org/

http://www.garden.org/regional/report/arch/inmygarden/4318

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These people are dying to know how others get carrots to grow in the desert. Keep your blog about gardening and leave out the writing tips. Who knows, you may even attract the interest of people behind said link, prompting them to mention your work. Credible website says buy your book, sounds like marketing gold if you ask me!

Whatever your genre create a buzz of awesome information, immersing your target audience in what they love. It makes sense and gives your blog purpose. This is what I will be doing as my writing career eeks along.

If you have a manuscript and are trying to attract the illusive agent/publisher, make your blog samples of your writing style. Focus on your strengths.

If you are like me, you are learning as you go. A blog about writing is not only appreciated but necessary. But if your tweeting “buy my book” and making everyone mad, I suggest writing a blog that sparks an interest for your target audience. Then you can tweet about your latest posts and sell some books based on the creative and vast knowledge of your genre. This can save a LOT of wasted time. Not to mention the Twitter Police will stop writing “what not to do” articles (that really are true, sorry to say) about you.

I have accomplished a great many goals with this blog. For me it serves a multitude of purposes. I look forward to doing some creative posts about my up and coming genre, adding randomly to  my writing portfolio and connecting with individuals/groups with common interests.

I wish you all the best and hope you enjoyed my cleverly disguised (must have) post about writing tips. LOL ~Dyslexicwhisper

I Had A Dream: A Thank You From Me To You!

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As the year wraps up and I am fully immersed in the holiday season I want to take a minute to say thank you! Thank you to my readers, friends, family and my internet community!

At first the year started out like this…

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And I was stuck in my metaphorical tower…

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Afraid to put myself out there…

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I decided to try anyways. And most of the first few months felt like this…

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Many moments felt like this…

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But I started to get the hang of things and I figured out what I needed…

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The more time I spent doing this…

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The more people I came to know…

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And the more they came to feel like family…

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A few even became close…

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They helped steer me away from anything suspicious…

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And anyone suspicious…

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I put together my professional image…

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I was able to cling to that illusion even when I felt like this…

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I met a great publisher…

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And they shared their secrets with me…

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They gave me direction…

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I hold dearly the time they have invested in my work…

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This opened up possibilities for me…

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They wanted to know who I was…

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I showed them how I think…

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I found out that underdog was really the definition of superhero…

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This kept me from to much…

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In turn stopping me from going…

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My best friend is my sister. I call her my Samwise because she will walk to the fiery mountain with me. Always standing by my side.

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Oftentimes leading the way, sometimes even carrying me…

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I love her with all my heart and soul…

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I went to some great parties…

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I met interesting people and introduced them to my personality …

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I learned not to take life too seriously…

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And when I look back at all the people I have met and all the milestones I have accomplished I am happy to say I love my life and everyone in it! Oh yeah! Oh yeah!

So thank you and Happy Holidays!

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DYSLEXICWHISPER

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